In a few weeks time, my husband and I will be celebrating our third anniversary.
It’s weird because I simultaneously feel like it’s the longest and shortest 3 years of my life.
Shortest because despite the decade we’ve spent as boyfriend and girlfriend added to the years we’ve been legit married, I feel like I’m still getting to know Moe. There are good and not-so-good stuff that I still discover about him.
My sensibilities still get shocked with his vast vocabulary of swear words for instance. And I’m still not used to the fact that he snores like a rickety car on its last leg when he’s tired. I’m still amazed by his capacity to just figure out complex work problems. And bowled over by how intelligent and articulate he sounds even when we’re just talking about John Lloyd.
Plus because we live in idyllic Subic, away from everyone we’ve known before we got married, it sometimes feels like we’re still in some sort of honeymoon vacay.
It feels like the longest 3 years though, because we’ve already gone through so much. We’ve experienced deaths, heartbreaks, health scares, financial woes and whole lotta of other stuff that other couples would probably need a lifetime to deal with. We’ve had the most awful and explosive alsabalutan fights and the corniest, most dramatic telenovela-worthy makeup moments.
And like any other old couple, we’ve gone through periods of monotony: Long phases when absolutely nothing significant is happening- we do the same thing day in and day out and half-listen to each other tell the same old tired stories while secretly wishing that the other one would leave so we could go and do other crap.
On the up side, we’re also so comfortable with each other that I feel like we’ve been married for at least a couple of decades. Our routines have become so intertwined that I honestly can’t imagine a time when I didn’t have him as my husband/housemate anymore.
In light of everything we’ve gone through, I thought it would be fun (and enlightening) to revisit our wedding vows. Our wedding still is one of the most poignant moments of our relationship. And it’s always nice to look back and see how we fared after that significant high.
Since people who were there agree that Moe’s was much better than mine (special mention for one of my bridesmaids, Booboo, for categorically pointing it out; thanks a lot Boo! I don’t do well with mush and public speaking okay?!? 😛 ), I decided to share my vows first so it’s not so anticlimactic:
I’m having a difficult time with my vows because I can’t find the right words to articulate how grateful I am to have gone through 11 years worth of experiences with you. In our best moments, you’ve shown me what it feels like to really truly be loved.
At its basest you’ve seen me in my rattiest pambahay, with my unrebonded hair and 4-inch thick glasses and still think I’m the prettiest person on earth. More importantly, you’ve seen me at my worst, when I’m nagging, screaming or basically being brat and you still proposed. 🙂
More than that, you actually have this notion that you’re lucky to have me. Thank you for making me feel that even at my ugliest, I am a person worth loving.
At our worst moments, you’ve taught me how to grow; to look beyond myself and see things in another person’s perspective. You’ve also taught me how to forgive. I’ve always been a proud person, but you’ve taught me that something great can come out if you let go of the deepest hurts. It took a while, but I can honestly say that I’ve never felt more loved, more comfortable and secure with you right at this moment than I have in my life.
I wish i could promise you the world, after all you deserve it. But since we’re in church, I can’t lie, and I have to level expectations:
- I will buy myself a cookbook, but I will probably never learn how to cook. The best that I can do is not burn the rice for you.
- I will take driving lessons again, but you know IQ tests show that I’m spatially challenged. I will probably have to rely on you to take me around for the rest of our lives.
- I will always take you and your feelings into consideration. But I will always have a hard time with the word ‘obey’ and will probably argue with you about the most mundane details all the time.
There are three things I would like to promise you however:
- I promise to always support you. I know we always don’t see eye to eye when it comes to decisions, but I will always have your back. I’ve said this before, no matter what the circumstances are, we will always be in this together.
- I promise to always believe in you. Nothing has changed in the 11 years that I’ve been with you; I’m still your No. 1 fan. I will always be here to cheer you on, and remind you of who you are especially during the times when you doubt yourself.
- I promise to always love you. Even when you inevitably grow bald and lose your hair. Even during moments when you’re masungit and throwing tantrums.
We’ve been through a lot together. A lot of ups, downs, lefts, rights. One thing will always remain constant, whatever happens, wherever the universe decides to take us, as long as we’re together, we’ll always be home.
MOE’S WEDDING VOWS TO BE CONTINUED ON THE NEXT POST